82: It Is What It Is

Sometimes I want to burn it all down. I think a lot of us feel like that, but it is not popular to share how much running your own business can suck, especially when we are trying to teach other people that they can live their dreams.

The last couple of weeks I have been sick and have had zero energy for this podcast, for social media, for connecting with people, for worrying about saying the right things. It’s all been really frustrating. But I did realize something while taking somewhat of a break – the way I have been doing things is not making me happy.

I used to show up on social media and share whatever random thoughts I had for the day. I would be happy with any interaction, just glad to be reaching people and making them think about things in a different way. I was always happy to make new connections online and get to know people. I have met some of my very best friends this way.

Lately, none of it feels like that. So many people on social media are so angry all of the time. Everyone thinks they know what is best for everyone- when in reality, none of us really know the right answers. Everyone is just doing their best to deal with the feeling of not having any control. There are so many things to be scared of and instead of people joining together and supporting one another everyone is constantly at odds. It is incredibly frustrating.

Not to mention, trying to share business posts is hard af. Platforms hide content that does not add to the divide. People are sick of people selling constantly. Even I am sick of people selling constantly. Like you can’t even add someone without fear of them messaging you pretending to be your friend to try and sell you something. If people post asking for advice, a million people flock to their post trying to sell them a solution to their problem. There is such a lack of compassion and humanity and I absolutely hate it.

I love connecting with people. I love helping people. Some days I really miss the cringey girl boss days because at least we were all being nice to each other. These days I see constant bashing from one company to the next or from girls who used to work MLMs who have now decided they’re evil and they have to save the world from them. I’m not going to pretend MLMs are perfect because they are not, and some companies really suck. But some MLMs are a great way for womxn to break into the business space, to learn how to use social media for business, to gain confidence, to make new friends. I probably never would have gone live if I hadn’t joined Younique and got encouraged (or ordered, if you know my best friend Anna lol). I got pushed out of my comfort zone and got introduced to more personal development than I had been doing. In the end, I decided I wanted to work solo, but that doesn’t mean I don’t value the time I had with the company. I won’t turn around and make fun of the way they do things now.

Let’s talk about spirituality next, since we are covering all of the things today. I am 100% over people telling people what to believe in, what is evil, what is acceptable. People can believe what they want. I am spiritual, I do not follow the rules of any religion. I don’t really follow any rules, so for me it doesn’t make sense to suddenly change my ways for religion. I am a witch, but that does not mean I am wiccan or that I have to follow any rules or do any specific rituals. I believe everything is energy and everything is ruled by nature. Things change when the seasons change, when the moon moves, when planets are in different places. I believe that the energy we put out into the world determines how we experience life. This, however, does not mean you must be happy all of the time. No one is happy all of the time. The notion that they are is ridiculous. Everyone feels different emotions depending on what they are experiencing and depending on what the people they love are experiencing.

Then we have the coaching industry which I now have a real love hate relationship with. Like I said before I absolutely love helping people.  There is nothing better to me than seeing a womxn grow from who she thought she had to be to who she desires to be. Every time one of my clients has a breakthrough, no matter how small, it brings me so much joy. But so much of the coaching industry focuses on nothing but monetary wins. Now I do not believe money is evil and all that. I love money and I know we all need money to have the things we want and need to survive. But I do not believe money should be the main focus when it comes to helping people grow. We are supposed to be changing to a new paradigm. One where we leave the patriarchal ideas in the past and focus on love and relationships and helping fellow humans. Seeing so many womxn fall into the same old patriarchal patterns is disheartening. Seeing so many womxn who are passionate and really care about change, struggle just to get by breaks my heart.

In addition to all of the money bullshit, there are so many false messages being spread. Like if your energy is right, you will attract everything without doing anything. You probably don’t make enough because you have not invested enough in yourself. Just mortgage your house and give me all your money and your vibrations will be right. It is all bs and it is making people feel bad. It is just another elitist system that we don’t need any more of.

Then you have coaches that constantly reach out to other coaches trying to tell them what they are doing wrong before they even know the level of success of the other person they’re messaging. It’s annoying and rude. I don’t know who taught people who do this, but they really need to stop.

Finally, you have all of the people who think the industry is such a joke, except when it is someone super famous giving them advice. I change people’s lives. I don’t just tell people some fluffy bs to make them feel good for 5 minutes. I help people deal with past trauma, I help people accept themselves for who they are and show them how to work with their natural tendencies, I teach behavior change techniques that actually work. I help womxn see that they are more than the roles that they play, they are someone aside from being a mom, spouse, co-worker, friend, daughter, sibling. I help womxn see their worth and in a society that constantly tries to diminish the value of womxn, I think that should be celebrated and not laughed at.

In 2022 I’m not with any of the bs. I am not doing anything that doesn’t feel good. I’m going to show up how and when I want to and say whatever comes to mind. I’m not going to make sure every post has the perfect wording to get people into my newest program. I’m not going to feel like I need to help people make 10k months to feel good about my coaching. I am going to continue showing womxn how to tap into their divine feminine energy, how to listen to their intuition, how to change their mindset so they don’t always feel like their mind is fighting against them, show them how to workout in a way that feels good – not only so they can be confident but so they can reap all the mental health benefits, I am going to offer card readings for when you feel lost or stuck, I am going to keep advocating for the changes I want to see in the world. Maybe I do too much and that’s confusing to some people, but it is who I am. If you don’t get it then you’re probably not my people and I am ok with that. I’m not toning down or dimming myself for anyone or anything this year. I hope you are not either.

In Love & Abundance,

Falon ~ Queen of Captivation