Unhealed Feminine Energy
Unhealed Feminine Energy
Hey Queens! Welcome back to another episode of Captivation Radio.
Have you ever noticed that some womxn ALWAYS have a problem with other womxn? Or have you heard a womxn say “I don’t really like being around other womxn.” These are two big signs of womxn who have unhealed feminine energy. Today, I am going to talk about what unhealed or wounded energy looks like in womxn and how you can work on healing your own feminine energy.
Why do womxn have wounded feminine energy?
For years, womxn were taught that men are stronger and more capable. Fast forward to the time when feminism was rising, and you will see a lot of womxn hiding their feminine energy in order to fit in in the workplace and gain respect from men. The womxn who were often the most respected by their male counterparts were the ones who were just as cutthroat as the men. This included pushing other womxn down in order to get ahead. Collaboration was frowned upon, and competition was everything.
Pushing down our feelings like our natural inclination to nurture others and work as a collective causes these attributes to be forced to our shadow side. As we hide the parts of ourselves that we, or society, denotes as weak, we begin t to lose touch with more and more of our feminine energy. This is how womxn become disconnected from their own power and intuition.
What does unhealed feminine energy look like?
· Feeling as if you must “fix” something inside of yourself in order to accomplish what you want or to be worthy.
· Constantly questioning if you are doing something the “right” way
· Obsessing about what other people think about you and your actions
· Thinking everything is easier for everyone else
· Feeling jealous of other womxn’s success
· Feeling excessively attached to others
· Manipulating people
· Having no boundaries
· Ignoring intuition
· Valuing others’ opinions over your own
· Believing in competition over collaboration
· Afraid to say no
· Unsure of who she is, lacking authenticity
· Generally disconnected from how she truly feels
What are the benefits of healing feminine energy?
Healing feminine energy allows you to be fully yourself. You can stop looking for external validation once you are whole and have learned to accept yourself. This is when you can step into your power and start growing your gifts. Your relationships become healthier. You can make real friendships and collaborate with other womxn and all rise up together. Instead of feeling jealous by other womxn’s success you will begin to feel inspired. You will start showing up fully as yourself. You will not have to try to be authentic. You will just be. Because a womxn in touch with her divine feminine energy does not have to DO anything, she simply is.
How do I begin to heal my feminine energy?
The first step is determining what areas of your feminine energy are wounded and where this wound originates. For example, you have difficulty trusting other womxn. Thinking back you remember when you confided in someone who you thought was your best friend and she spread you secrets all around school. After this, you thought all womxn would be like this. It likely is an unconscious reaction at this point, but it is there. Go back to this time in your mind, tell yourself it is okay to be hurt by this action. Your feelings are valid. Forgive the so-called friend who did this to you and let it go. After all, why should her actions still hurt you now? While her actions are not excusable, remember that she was most likely coming from a place of pain as well. Her actions were based on her and not on you.
Practice self-care. You have to take time for yourself and love yourself as much as you do everyone else. This includes loving yourself as you are naturally. Maybe you feel better with makeup on and your hair done. Maybe you wish you were in better shape. All of these things are ok, we all have things we wish to change about ourselves. However, we must learn to accept ourselves how we currently are. If we do not learn to do this then no matter of working on yourself will change how you feel. Have you ever seen a womxn lose 50-100 pounds and still feel insecure. Your outside image is not where the insecurity comes from, it comes from your mind. This is why it is necessary to focus on the internal as well as the external.
Cultivate friendships with womxn. I know some of you are rolling your eyes because you are coming from that place where womxn are untrustworthy or have done you wrong before. However, there are many fabulous womxn out here who will love and support you. I have been in the place where I thought I didn’t want or need any friends anymore. I spent a lot of time by myself healing the pain caused by friendships that were toxic. Now I have the most amazing support system in my friends. Womxn were created to work collectively. We all do better when we collaborate! We have different skills, abilities, and thought processes that when combined can help all of us elevate faster together than we ever could on our own.
Pay attention to your intuition. Womxn have an incredible gift for intuition. However, over time we have become conditioned to ignore it. Learning to listen to your intuition is not as hard as it may seem. Learn to sit alone with your thoughts through meditation or whatever means work for you. Journal about the ideas that come to mind. Analyze your dreams. Play around with different methods of divination like tarot cards.
Feel your emotions without judging them. As emotions arise, allow yourself to truly feel them. Don’t judge your feelings, just let them flow, process them, and go about living.
Allow everything to flow. Life should not have to be forced. Of course, there will be times where you have to work extremely hard. But, if you are in your divine feminine energy you will be working with the flow of the Universe and not against it.
In Love & Abundance,
Falon ~ Queen of Captivation